“Cheap men and expensive bottles”: Princess Margaret’s love affairs

Aside from her toxic marriage to Antony Armstrong-Jones, Lord Snowdon, Princess Margaret embarked on a number of affairs of the heart – including one with a gardener named Roddy Llewellyn, who was almost two decades her junior. Ahead of her portrayal by Helena Bonham Carter in season three of The Crown, historian Dominic Sandbrook explores Margaret's relationships over the years…

Princess Margaret and her husband, Lord Snowdon, in San Francisco during a visit to America, November 1965. (Photo by Harry Benson/Express/Getty Images)

Even now, 17 years after her death at the age of 71, Princess Margaret continues to fascinate people not just in Britain, but around the world. Born into colossal privilege and unimaginable pressure as the second daughter of George VI, Margaret was, at one time or another, the model of fresh-faced girlish vigour, the symbol of flirtatious elegance, the personification of arrogant entitlement and the embodiment of an ancient institution that seemed to be losing its way. And if The Crown’s Helena Bonham Carter can capture even a fraction of her extraordinary, world-class rudeness, then audiences are surely in for a treat.

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Born in 1930, Margaret was stereotyped as the classic naughty younger sister from the very beginning. The camera always loved her, and visitors often commented on her spiky personality. “Full of character and very tart,” one remarked when she was still in her early teens. She was “a most attractive girl – lovely skin, lovely eyes, lovely mouth, very sure of herself and full of humour”, recorded the diplomat Duff Cooper, who met her a few years later. Presciently, he thought she “might get into trouble before she’s finished”.

Princess Margaret and her sister, Princess Elizabeth, April 1948. (Photo by Fox Photos/PNA//Hulton Archive/Getty Images)
Princess Margaret and her sister, Princess Elizabeth, April 1948. “Very sure of herself and full of humour,”  Margaret was described by diplomat Duff Cooper during her younger years. (Photo by Fox Photos/PNA//Hulton Archive/Getty Images)

Peter Townsend romance

She did. By the time her sister, Elizabeth, became Queen in 1952, Margaret was already cementing her reputation as an acerbic girl-about-town, never knowingly seen without a drink, a cigarette and a coterie of male admirers. Far more than her sister, she epitomised the new elegance of a society bent on banishing the years of rationing and austerity. She was more than a princess; she was a star.

RAF Group Captain Peter Townsend, currently in a relationship with Princess Margaret, pictured getting in to his car in Brussels, March 14th 1955. (Photo by Central Press/Getty Images)
March 1955: Group Captain Peter Townsend, with whom Princess Margaret had a relationship during the 1950s. (Photo by Central Press/Getty Images)

Indeed, in 1955 she even became the leading figure in her own soap opera, as the nation waited to discover whether she would abandon her royal role to marry her older lover, the divorced Group Captain Peter Townsend. Love or duty; heart or head? “Come on, Margaret!” urged the headlines. But to the disappointment of the romantics, she chose duty – a very un-Margaret choice, as it turned out.

On the surface, the next 10 years appeared to be Margaret’s golden years. In reality, she was heading down a very steep incline. Her marriage to the aristocratic society photographer Antony Armstrong-Jones, later Lord Snowdon, another louche, raffish character, delighted the tabloids but proved a toxic disaster. According to one account, Snowdon liked to leave her little notes tucked into her bedside reading books, which read simply: “I hate you.” And when, at a party in New York, somebody asked her how the Queen was, she snapped: “Which one? My sister, my mother or my husband?”

The bridal group at Buckingham Palace at the wedding of Princess Margaret and Antony Armstrong-Jones. (Photo by Getty Images)
The wedding of Princess Margaret and Antony Armstrong-Jones, 6 May 1960. (Photo by Getty Images)

“Tiresome, spoilt and irritating”

For all the wild evenings with the likes of the actor Peter Sellers and the theatre critic Kenneth Tynan, there was a hollowness at the centre of Margaret’s existence. As the Sixties slumped towards a gin-soaked end, even her friends found her sullen, maudlin and entitled. She was “tiresome, spoilt, idle and irritating,” wrote the diarist Sir Roy Strong. “She has no direction, no overriding interest. All she likes is young men.”

Princess Margaret dancing with her husband Antony Armstrong-Jones - in April 1967. (Photo by Len Trievnor/Express/Hulton Archive/Getty Images)
Princess Margaret dancing with her husband, Antony Armstrong-Jones, in April 1967. (Photo by Len Trievnor/Express/Hulton Archive/Getty Images)

And she was now ruder than ever: seated next to the model Twiggy at a party, the princess ignored her for two hours before finally turning and asking who she was. “I’m Lesley Hornby, ma’am, but people call me Twiggy,” Twiggy said. “How unfortunate,” Margaret said coldly, and then turned her back again.

By the early 1970s Margaret’s marriage was effectively over. She seemed to have aged overnight: after spotting her at another party, the photographer Cecil Beaton recorded that her “eyes seem to have lost their vigour, her complexion is now a dirty negligée pink satin. The sort of thing one sees in a disbanded dyer’s shop window.” All in all, he thought she looked like Queen Victoria. “Poor brute. I do feel sorry for her,” Beaton mused. “She was not very nice in the days when she was so pretty and attractive. She snubbed and ignored friends. But, my God, has she been paid out!”

Princess Margaret sits in 1970 with her children Lord Linley and Lady Sarah Armstrong-Jones. (Photo by Getty Images)
Princess Margaret sits in 1970 with her children Lord Linley and Lady Sarah Armstrong-Jones. By the early 1970s Margaret’s marriage to Antony Armstrong-Jones was effectively over. (Photo by Getty Images)

Roddy Llewellyn scandal

Increasingly Margaret retreated to her house on the Caribbean island of Mustique, where she surrounded herself with cheap men and expensive bottles. Her closest companion now was the would-be gardener, Roddy Llewellyn, who was almost two decades her junior. When, in the spring of 1976, Buckingham Palace confirmed that her marriage had broken down, Llewellyn found himself at the centre of an international media storm, cast as the topless ‘toyboy’ who had stolen the heart of the Queen’s sister.

Roddy Llewellyn. (Photo by Keystone/Hulton Archive/Getty Images)
Gardener Roddy Llewellyn was almost two decades younger than Princess Margaret when they became close companions. (Photo by Keystone/Hulton Archive/Getty Images)

Not surprisingly, he eventually jumped ship, and Margaret drifted on, lonely and miserable. The historian John Julius Norwich even recalled that he had “never known an unhappier woman” – an extraordinary thing to say about somebody born with so many advantages.

The Snowdons’ divorce

Margaret’s divorce was an enormous international story: the first sign that the carefully manicured Victorian façade of the royal family was breaking apart under the pressures of the late 20th century. Some of her subsequent lovers were almost beyond parody: one example was the East End gangland enforcer John Bindon, who reportedly amused her by dangling five half-pint glasses from his erect penis. It is hard to imagine such a display going down well with her sister. In any case, Margaret had become an embarrassment. By April 1978 seven out of 10 people agreed that she had damaged the royal family, and whenever her most outspoken critic, the Labour MP Willie Hamilton, laid into her “expensive, extravagant irrelevance”, people nodded with approval.

British film actor and bodyguard John Bindon. (Photo by John Minihan/Evening Standard/Hulton Archive/Getty Images)
British film actor and bodyguard John Bindon, who reportedly amused Princess Margaret by “dangling five half-pint glasses from his erect penis”. (Photo by John Minihan/Evening Standard/Hulton Archive/Getty Images)

As the criticism mounted, Margaret retreated ever deeper into an alcohol-soaked haze. According to one account, she was now so lazy that she tried to glue matchboxes to her gin glasses, so that she could keep drinking while she was lighting her cigarettes. And as the spotlight passed to Princess Diana, so Margaret no longer bothered with the faintest semblance of politeness. When she visited the Conservative MP Matthew Parris’s constituency in the mid-1980s, Parris was shocked that Margaret seemed already drunk by mid-morning, and even more shocked when she told the caterers at an old people’s home that their coronation chicken looked like vomit.

Princess Margaret and Rudolf Nureyev dancing together at a party in June 1977. (Photo by Evening Standard/Hulton Archive/Getty Images)
Princess Margaret and Soviet ballet dancer Rudolf Nureyev dance together at a party in June 1977. (Photo by Evening Standard/Hulton Archive/Getty Images)

But to experienced Margaret-watchers, this was merely par for the course, part of the long, sad decline towards her death in 2002. Margaret died on 9 February 2002 at the age of 71 after suffering a stroke and developing heart problems.

What, then, should we make of Margaret? One of her biographers, Craig Brown, suggests that she became a “nightclub burlesque of her sister”, her life a kind of “pantomime as tragedy, tragedy as pantomime”. She was, of course, in a pretty unenviable position: for all the palaces, the jewels and the bouquets, she was the eternal spare part, doomed forever to be the naughty little sister.

But then you think about the time she met an architect, disabled since birth, and asked him: “Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror and seen the way you walk?” Perhaps she thought she was being funny. But nobody else thought so.

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Dominic Sandbrook is a historian who has written widely on postwar Britain. He presented a two-part documentary series Princess Margaret: Royal Rebel on BBC Two in September 2018.